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8 Ways to get
off the Success-Go-Round and Have a Consistent Flow of Success
by Marie Roker
Are you consistently chasing success? Once you achieve
it, do you desperately try to continue the pattern of making it
happen again? Isn't it time you got off the success-go-round? Here
are 8 tips to help you make the transition from inconsistency to
steady flow of success.
1. Know Your Core Values.
What do your truly value in your life? If you're struggling to come
up with an answer, then maybe it's time you reevaluated your values.
You might know what values your parents instilled in you, but you
need to be clear on what you stand for and what is important in your
life. Do you value honesty, integrity or trust? By knowing your core
values you will seek them in the relationships you form with others.
List your top five core values and live by them. Start to examine if
your core values match the goals you are trying to achieve. Your
values are essential to success.
2. Be Honest With Yourself.
Don't kid yourself about who you are or what you love to do. If
you're trying to impress or win the approval of others by being
successful, you success will be unauthentic. Is the "real" you
showing up everyday? It is empowering to some to have a great job
title or a prospering business, but if at the end of the day, you
feel empty, tired or dissatisfied; it's time to be honest with
yourself. You can't present yourself as someone in control at work,
when you know deep inside you feel that you have no control over
your life. Success is only temporary when you are not living a
self-actualized life. Passion for your life and your work makes you
thrive. Only when you are honest with yourself about who you are and
what you really love to do can you start to experience a steady flow
3. Don't Let Your Emotions Run the Show.
If you’re happy when life is great and going as planned, but fall
apart when you are faced with challenges and obstacles, you allow
your emotions to run the show. If people can clearly tell when
things are not going well for you, it's time to get your emotions in
check. Life is not predictable. Plans will not always run as
smoothly as expected, but it is important that you maintain your
composure during these times. Don't let your beliefs have power over
the situation. If you allow sadness, anger or fear to take over, you
will find it more difficult each time to bounce back after a
set-back. Get to know your emotional triggers; what makes you angry,
sad or afraid and then create a plan for coping with them when they
4. Be Flexible With Your Plans.
Being too rigid and unwavering with plans can lead to
disappointment. While setting plans and goals are ideal for making
success happen, you have to accept that sometimes you may have to
alter those plans. It's a good idea to have a back-up just in case
things don't go the way you expected. Don't allow minor setbacks to
make you cancel your plans altogether, but have faith that you will
find another way to get things done. Take detours if it is
necessary. Be open to ideas and suggestions from those you trust.
You will find another way if you are willing to receive what is
being offered to you.
5. Don't Let Success Be the Center of Your Life.
Success should not be at the center of your life. There are many
more important things that you need to tend you. When you neglect or
postpone what is important in your life, you will find that you are
chasing success just to have more time, more energy and more money
to enjoy life. It doesn’t happen that way. Set aside time to work on
your career goals, business plan, life plan, etc, then continue with
our life. If you're always on the look-out for success, it will
rarely come. Have you heard the expression: "A watched phone never
rings.”? Be patient and don't try to rush success. Learn to let go
and you will see a transformation in yourself and your success
6. Share What You Know or What You Have.
If you have a grip hold on success, but are not willing to share
your knowledge, your time or your resources, chances are success
will break free from you. Give of yourself and you will always be
given. Don't be afraid to share your knowledge even with a
competitor because it the long run, you will benefit more from it.
Volunteer, if you have the time.
7. Ask for What You Want and Believe You Will Receive It.
Do you state clearly your goals or desires? Depending on your faith
or religious affiliation, pray, meditate and ask for what you want.
Once you get it, don't stop asking. We often make the mistake of
asking for what we want and then we either give up because it hasn't
come in our anticipated time or we stop asking because we got what
we wanted. You should never stop asking, because you are only
halfway. When you stop asking you don't allow more blessings to come
into your life. If you only ask periodically or when things are
going bad, then you are asking out of desperation. Ask continuously,
and ask with the conviction that it will come to realization.
8. Stay in the Success Momentum.
The best way to keep from sabotaging your success is to stay in the
success mindset. Giving in to financial or career blues can deter
you from your goals. Keep away from people or situations that sap
your energy or keep you stuck. Build a network of people that will
challenge, support and motivate you when your outlook becomes
distorted. Develop strategies that will help you to deal with
rejections, disappointments and regrets. Lighten up and know don't
be yourself up for every little mistake you make. Take charge of all
your trying situations and know that "this too shall pass."
Marie Roker may be contacted at
Marie Magdala Roker is a Personal Development Coach an Author of
Successful Thinking for a Successful Life: How to Banish the
Unhealthy Thoughts and Habits That Limit Your Success. Her
Successful Thinking™ program is an affordable coaching resource that
offers support and encouragement when there are roadblocks to
success. You can find out more about the program at http://www.thinkandbesuccessful.com
or sign up for her free Be Inspired newsletter at http://www.smartbeecoaching.com
Michele Caron, 2002-2005