The wonderful Mel Robbins introduced us to the “Let Them Theory.”

In short, it posits that when someone wants to do something, you let them! You don’t argue or try to change someone else’s behavior.

Mel Says:

When you “Let Them” do whatever it is that they want to do, it creates more control and emotional peace for you and a better relationship with the people in your life.

How sane! How relaxing! And how simple.

But I’ve got a challenge for you, how about where we were thinking of people, we think of the Universe. For whatever reason things happen, what if we just “let” the universe do what it wants, without arguing or trying to change things in the moment.

We can call this the “Let It Theory.”

It means to just say Let It to anything the universe wants to do. When we say Universe, it’s not necessarily a personal universe or God, it can just be thought of as all the collection of influences that results in something happening. Whatever feels right to you. The key is, not to ARGUE, mentally, emotionally, or even verbally, haha, with the universe once something is happening (e.g. this shouldn’t be happening, I wish it was different, etc.)

So, here are some examples:

• I’m already running late for work, and now the Universe is blocking the road with a traffic jam. Let it! (But I can also choose to take a different road, if I want. Or phone my boss to let them know I’ll be late.)
• I’ve only got $500 in the bank, and now the Universe is sending me an unexpected tax bill for $600. Let it! (I can still take actions to scrounge up some money, or phone the IRS and ask for an extension.)
• I’ve been so excited leading up to this big event I have, and now the Universe is giving me the flu? Let it! (I can still decide to take some extra time for self-care, and/or lovingly communicate with the people involved and have a human moment.)

Just like with your relationship with people, with the Let It Theory, you will actually have more control, emotional peace, and a better “relationship” with the universe.

Because, let’s face it, the universe is going to do what it does.

Our real power lies in not resisting, and getting as quickly as possible to a place of positive response!

Despite what you might have convinced yourself, being a perfectionist is a wonderful thing.

You have a ton of potential, and you care deeply about things going well. You want the best for yourself and others.

The challenge comes in dealing with the gap between what currently is, and what you know can be possible.

If you have resistance towards the elements that aren’t perfect yet, you are going to cause yourself one or more of these issues: stress, indecision, procrastination, a decrease in performance, misalignment in priorities, lack of clarity, inability to connect with yourself or others, decreased energy and health challenges.

Decreasing the resistance to “the gap”, allows your natural genius to come forth, and accelerates your natural progress towards the “perfection” you know is possible.

3 Steps to Get Past Perfectionism (and Accelerate your Progress to Perfection)

1) Accept and celebrate that you are playing the “long game” of perfection.
It’s not about what is happening today, it’s about the habits you are building over time that are going to serve you more and more over the course of your lifetime.
2) Enjoy the best from yourself (even in the smallest of degrees towards the best) without “unenjoying” what isn’t the best (even in the smallest of degrees towards not the best.)
Get really good at identifying and celebrating what is going great, without feeling bad about what is not going so great. This is the most crucial aspect of the steps.
3) Relax and ride things out when sh*t happens. As you get better and better at accomplishing things, and life gets more and more perfect, inevitably you are going to be challenged with events that throw a wrench in things. A twisted ankle. A sick family member. A failed business. Be prepared in advance to not let this phase you. YOU are building your ability (see number 1) to get strong in your ability to play the long game, so outside events don’t slow down your long term progress.

Mastering the above three steps will enable your true genius to shine forth and allow you to achieve what you always knew was possible, with balance, flow, presence and personal fulfilment.

If you want a coach to help you with the nuances, get in touch!

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