Despite what you might have convinced yourself, being a perfectionist is a wonderful thing.

You have a ton of potential, and you care deeply about things going well. You want the best for yourself and others.

The challenge comes in dealing with the gap between what currently is, and what you know can be possible.

If you have resistance towards the elements that aren’t perfect yet, you are going to cause yourself one or more of these issues: stress, indecision, procrastination, a decrease in performance, misalignment in priorities, lack of clarity, inability to connect with yourself or others, decreased energy and health challenges.

Decreasing the resistance to “the gap”, allows your natural genius to come forth, and accelerates your natural progress towards the “perfection” you know is possible.

3 Steps to Get Past Perfectionism (and Accelerate your Progress to Perfection)

1) Accept and celebrate that you are playing the “long game” of perfection.
It’s not about what is happening today, it’s about the habits you are building over time that are going to serve you more and more over the course of your lifetime.
2) Enjoy the best from yourself (even in the smallest of degrees towards the best) without “unenjoying” what isn’t the best (even in the smallest of degrees towards not the best.)
Get really good at identifying and celebrating what is going great, without feeling bad about what is not going so great. This is the most crucial aspect of the steps.
3) Relax and ride things out when sh*t happens. As you get better and better at accomplishing things, and life gets more and more perfect, inevitably you are going to be challenged with events that throw a wrench in things. A twisted ankle. A sick family member. A failed business. Be prepared in advance to not let this phase you. YOU are building your ability (see number 1) to get strong in your ability to play the long game, so outside events don’t slow down your long term progress.

Mastering the above three steps will enable your true genius to shine forth and allow you to achieve what you always knew was possible, with balance, flow, presence and personal fulfilment.

If you want a coach to help you with the nuances, get in touch!

I have helped hundreds of individuals move towards more satisfying job positions and careers.

Most individuals want a job that just feels better to them! Less of a chore, should or a have to, and more of fun, adventure, meaning and joy.

I want my clients to have those things too! But there is one trick that not everyone knows. Read more

Our speech and thoughts are not the be all and end all of intentional living, but for most people’s practical purposes, words are essential to our experience and results.

Most people use the phrase, I’m doing the best that I can as a plaintive expression that is essentially a complaint…A complaint that you are disappointed in your own results, a complaint that that your efforts aren’t yielding enough benefits or results and a doubting that further change is possible.

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Short answer, always…Easy for a coach to say!

But there is more to understand when you are considering hiring a coach…

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Yes, it is a new year, and it is the time when many set resolutions.

Yet how long do these resolutions stick? Usually not more than a few days, weeks or months.

Why is that? Are people, weak-willed, lazy?

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I got this great question from my niece!

I asked her one clarifying question…What don’t you like about feeling shy?

You can’t go out and meet new people without worrying that they won’t like you…

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So often when I am working with clients, I find that they are making life difficult for themselves. These are just some of the ways:

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It’s funny, a lot of people may have heard of hiring a life coach, and been intrigued…But perhaps didn’t take action because the idea was so new, or not well understood.

It took me halfway through our first session to realize that a life coach was exactly what I had been looking for.

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It seems like a good idea, right?

“Two things to remember in life.  Take care of your thoughts when you are alone, and take care of your words when you are with people.”

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The Guardian recently published a great article about a nurse’s discussions with people at the end of their lives.  What did they look back on and regret?

There were some common themes!

I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.

I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.

I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

I wish that I had let myself be happier.

Perhaps not surprisingly, this is a list very consistent with the major themes of coaching.

Happiness matters, and is largely under your control.

Most people I speak with are giving more to their job than their job gives to them.

Most people I speak with have dreams, values, and personal characteristics they aren’t living.

Most people get true fulfillment in life from their personal relationships.

Most people can gain immeasurably by expressing their feelings.  It is a key to not only deepening relationships, but also understanding yourself, who you want to be, and accessing the wisdom and energy required to create a truly great life.

Read the full article here…Top Five Regrets of the Dying.